(graphic by the amazing yesyoumaigh. she is most certainly a boss.)
We haven’t really chatted about work much on here…I’m a wardrobe stylist! Surprise! I’ve had various styling opportunities in my day. Everything from in-home consulting to working with brands like Bloomingdale’s and Anthropologie. They each bring a different lesson. Some easier than others but all necessary. Here are a few school-house moments I’ve learned through styling:
- Always, always be kind. You never know who you’re working with in any customer service platform; shoppers, customers associates, bosses and everyone in between.
- Ask for what you want. Employers can’t read minds and neither should they be required to do so. It’s up to you, and only you, to ask for what you want.
- No one thinks about you as much as you think about yourself. I was so guilty of this. Obsessed with appearing teachable and helpful…I had good intentions but no doubt I missed the Spirit’s leading on a few things bc I was so worried about myself. I’m working on getting over myself so that I can do my job better. I think that’s called being an adult?
- Hard workers work hard in any situation…not just ones they like. You don’t get to tell a leader that you didn’t work hard at a task because you weren’t given the opportunity to do what you ‘deserve’ to do. You do the task at hand and deal with potential misleading in leadership later. Don’t cause a ruckus just because your feelings got hurt.
- You will have to work to earn your co-workers trust. Just because you know that you’re a trust worthy person in your circles, doesn’t mean that your coworkers will trust you right away. Or ever. Trust is earned. And don’t toss is around once you get it because if you drop it and it breaks you most certainly won’t get it put back together.
- Respect is also earned. I don’t care if you have 5 advanced degrees and an alphabet behind your name….if you treat people like they are expendable you will never win their respect.
- Obedience is not the same thing as respect. They often go hand in hand but they are not required to do so. Think of any type of prisoner, they obey not out of respect for the guard but out of self protection. Two very different things.
- Being honest is always the right thing to do but being brutal is rarely necessary. In styling specifically, I’m often asked my opinion. I see this as an opportunity to speak honestly in an uplifting way. It’s all about the delivery. One builds and the other tears down and leaves you rocking in a fetal position in the dressing room vowing off denim for life. And no one, I repeat no one, should vow off denim- my favorite piece of clothing!
- Real leaders don’t have to announce themselves. Ever. When a diva walks in, everyone knows it and they confuse recognition for praise. A boss walks in and everyone acknowledges and follows her lead, not because they have to but because she’s right. Be a boss not a diva. Only Instagram likes divas.
- Even a dream job has job-like moments. Doctors still get blood on their scrubs and teachers still have to do paperwork. Stylists still have to push racks and fold clothes. When an occupation has ‘job-like’ moments don’t overlook the fact that hard work naturally produces humility. Praise the Lord!
Be a boss not a diva. You’re better than that.